As I sat in the salon chair getting my hair cut, I found myself looking at a red, winged cherub. Christmas just ended and here the Valentines decorations were already out. I corrected my thoughts: it’s St. Valentine’s Day.

According to Merriam-Webster, the first definition of the word holiday is holy day. The etymology makes it clear that holy day is the literal translation of the two words that make up this one. Yet over the years it has come to mean a day off from work and is now synonymous with the word vacation. As the meaning has evolved, so has the way many people celebrate these days. While it’s wonderful these holy days have been enthusiastically embraced by secular society, it seems as though the meaning of the holy day has been diluted.

While one may see a bumper sticker that says, “Keep Christ in Christmas,” the celebration of the Christmas holiday overlaps with the celebration of a saint’s feast day earlier in the month. Consider the legendary stories of Saint Nicholas, a bishop in the early church, who is the model for Santa Claus, the magical gift-bearer on December 25th. From a secular perspective, Christmas is about getting people the “right” gifts and attending parties. Christians who make an effort to celebrate Christmas in a meaningful way are able to, but their priorities may conflict with the expectations of those who do not. 

 In February, St. Valentine’s Day is another example of a noteworthy holiday that has been secularized. With such high expectations on romance, even those in a relationship struggle to celebrate the holiday. As a single person, I never feel lonely as much as I do around this day. While I do experience the cultural expectations that every person needs to be in a relationship throughout the year, especially when traveling, the marketing of romance is at its zenith in mid-February and can definitely make a person feel incomplete.  

A month later is the celebration of St. Patrick’s Day, where everyone claims to have some bit of Irish ancestry. Here again, another bishop’s memory has been skewed by the culture so that the focus of the day is a beer-drinking party. Some may wear something green, or eat particular Irish dishes, but the good deeds of St. Patrick are mostly forgotten. These holy days are no longer opportunities for us to praise God, but rather to please ourselves. While there is nothing wrong in having a party, drinking beer, buying chocolates and flowers for your spouse, or even gifts for all those you love, these actions should come from our love of God as a natural expression towards those in our life, rather than the focal point of each of these special days. If it weren’t for Christianity, none of these days would be of particular importance. 

We can’t stop the world from secularizing these saints’ days, but we can take steps to make them holy in our life. One way is to learn about the saints and seek their intercession. While Christmas is a holy day of obligation, attending Mass on these other holy days can also help focus our perspective and our celebration. When we  put God first on these holy days, we will receive His grace and blessings and more fully enjoy these holiday celebrations.