Prayer is conversing with God. How many times, however, do we make a request of God, not a petition, but more of a command when we pray? Telling God what He must do is not prayer but arrogance. It illustrates the grasp for control that humans wrestle with since the serpent told Eve and Adam that they would be like gods if they only ate the forbidden fruit.

In last Sunday’s Gospel, Jesus encourages us to pray to God and to ask, seek, and knock for what we need. He tells us to be persistent, not to give up, but to continually petition God. (Lk 11:1-13) God the Father is the giver of all good gifts and we will be blessed in everything God gives to us. Yet in next Sunday’s Gospel, it appears to be almost the opposite. While the main theme is about greed, the passage starts with, “Someone in the crowd said to him, “Teacher, tell my brother to share the inheritance with me.” (Lk 12:13) That reminds me of when Martha instructed Jesus to tell her sister Mary to help her. Telling, requesting, or instructing God as to how something should be done will not achieve the results you want. 

While prayer is a conversation with God and we should feel comfortable to describe how we are feeling and what we need, it’s also an opportunity for us to be open to what God wants from us. Asking, seeking, and knocking are all attitudes of being humble and understanding that we can’t do everything ourselves. We must also listen, accept, and be open to answers and the real need for God’s assistance. If we are telling God what to do, then we are in a moment of anger and frustration, and we are venting, not having a conversation. While those are valid feelings to bring to God, He doesn’t want us to stay there, but wants to help us work through the feelings. Using the example of the brother wanting his sibling to share the inheritance, perhaps the initial prayer is for helping his sibling to see his need. Maybe the reason for the sibling’s stubbornness is due to an argument between the brothers and the prayer should be about making peace between them. And maybe it’s the requestor himself who is the one holding the grudge and needs God’s help to forgive his sibling.

When we petition God for help, we’re asking Him to mold us into the best version of ourselves. We are called to be holy and become saints who will live in God’s presence for all eternity. Sainthood is not just for those called to religious life, but rather every individual God creates, especially those who are baptized members of the Church. But God will not make us a saint because we tell Him to do so. Rather, we become saints because we seek God first, ask for God’s assistance, and continually knock on the doors of opportunity God provides to us. We pray “thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” Not our will to be in heaven, but God’s will that we reflect His image and likeness so that we can enter into heaven after the completion of our time on earth.

God wants to give us so many blessings. But if we do not have the maturity to recognize, appreciate, and share the gifts He gives us because we are focused on ourselves, then giving us more will not be in our best interest. Telling God what He needs to do only underscores that we are unprepared to receive all the blessings He wants to give us. We need to be persistent in seeking His help to become more like Him and to become as holy and blessed as He desires us to be.