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Catholic test drive

While meandering through the rabbit hole of YouTube, the algorithm served up two suggestions for me that were intriguing. Can faith, and the expression of it through a particular religion, be tried on or tested out?

Our world is very secular and every denomination claims to have open doors to those who are interested. The Catholic Church has a whole process around the entrance for converts: Order of Christian Initiation for Adults (OCIA). However, in the two videos I watched, these individuals weren’t necessarily interested in converting. They were more interested in having a better understanding of Catholicism and what it means to be a Catholic. The first person I watched took a very studious approach to his experience, while the second person’s perspective was one of a challenge. It was the second one, in particular, that made me think that the approach to religion was being equated to testing-driving a car. I know God calls people in many ways, and perhaps even if neither person converts, could these 30-day challenge videos encourage others to “try” Catholicism? 

Protestant Goes to Mass for 30 Days Straight

YouTuber Nash Georgiev posted his video a few days prior to when I watched it. I was impressed that he read several books in preparation for attending Mass. His goal was to understand Catholicism better, and, potentially, to be able to argue against the teachings based on his experience. In his thirst for knowledge of the faith, he seemed to be getting tired of the trite and repetitive brush-offs Protestants use to dismiss anything Catholic. Through his Bulgarian heritage, he was familiar with Orthodox Churches, and took time to appreciate and explain the symbolic details of the architecture in the Catholic Church he attended. Even with all the preparation Nash did — including reading parts of the Catechism of the Catholic Church, he was still confused as to what was happening at Mass. While he noticed that the congregation participated and responded to the priest, he wasn’t quite sure how to follow it. He also mentioned, of course, the amount of movement required during a Mass; the standing, the sitting, and the kneeling. If he was taking this “adventure” on by himself, it made sense that he was confused. While every Mass is open to anyone to attend, having a basic understanding of the actual actions, or someone who can explain in real time, is needed in order to see the fruits of attending. 

There were three main impacts that Nash indicated in his video. First, he was surprised to hear that Catholics pray for unity for all Christians. He had never heard another denomination do that. I think he expressed it well when he said he felt as if “Mother Church [was] waiting for her rebellious children to come home.” He also expressed how the Bible came to life within the act of worship, since so many prayers are based on, or directly from, Scriptures. What seems to have touched his heart is the reverence he saw Catholics giving to the Eucharist. As he was summarizing his experience, he expressed hesitation in participating in the symbolic communion service at his Protestant Church because of the depth of belief Catholics have in The Real Presence.

I thought Nash did a wonderful and respectful review of his 30 days attending Mass. Not even all Catholics attend daily! Perhaps with his newly open and receptive heart, his faith journey may lead him home to becoming Catholic.  

I Lived Like A Catholic For 30 Days

YouTuber Jacob Giron started his video by giving the count of how many Christian denominations there are. He posted his video about a month ago, and while he claims to be Christian, he didn’t seem to have any particular way to practice his faith. He mentioned his Catholic friends being disciplined in their prayers and Mass attendance and was using this 30-day challenge to see if Catholicism was right for him. There were three things he felt makes someone a Catholic: Mass, prayer, and confession. He was very eager to try all three, including confession!

Jacob began by talking with a priest, which I thought was an appropriate way to start. However, I think he was a bit disappointed that he didn’t receive a checklist of what to do and in what order. The first few days were focused on prayer. He pulled out his Bible and looked up the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew’s Gospel, and while he explained that he knew it, he also admitted that he never used “recited prayers.” Rather than going to Mass every day, Jacob’s attendance was limited to Sundays. It was rather humorous to hear him try to explain the kneelers. While I admit I did cringe when I saw him chewing gum when he entered the Church, he was cognizant to feel he was underdressed for Mass. He did talk with one of the parishioners who helped give him a bit more understanding of the Mass. Jacob seemed impressed with the unity of the Catholic Mass, in that all the Catholic Churches use the same Scripture readings around the world for any given Sunday. 

I wasn’t surprised at Jacob’s reflection on confession. Since he isn’t a Catholic, he really wasn’t prepared for the sacrament. His expectation was to just talk with the priest and seemed to be surprised at the ritual of it. While priests often do give pastoral counsel during confession, it’s usually when a person is prepared to confess specific sins, because they have reflected on what they have, or have not done. Without this approach, as well as proper remorse for one’s sins, one can’t fully receive the graces from the sacrament. In his summary, Jacob indicated he was not ready to make a commitment to becoming Catholic and still had many more questions. 

While the approaches and the intentions seemed to be different for each man, I’m not convinced a 30-day challenge is a good idea for faith and religion. Faith is a journey and it’s also a relationship; both with God as well as each person we meet. Our chosen religion is how we express and practice what we believe. I don’t think you can try-on a denomination to see if it fits you. The Catholic faith and its practice is for you to be molded into the likeness of Jesus, imitating Him and having a relationship with Him. Faith changes us into the best version of ourselves. To look for faith and a religious expression to be anything else, is wanting to play at being God. 

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Wealth beyond measure

The juxtaposition of an enormously large lottery drawing and last Sunday’s Gospel message where Jesus spoke of handling wealth, I find most fascinating. It seems to prompt one to reflect not just on money, but all possessions and our relationship to them. 

Last week as I was creating some test content for a website at work, I found myself typing in, what I thought at the moment, silly sayings. Since the content is merely for testing purposes, it’s not important what the words are, however, I do like to use actual sentences, so that the tests sufficiently measure the functionality of the application. For the headline, I wrote something like, Want to get wealthy fast? Perhaps it was all the talk about the lottery that my subconscious had me write that. However, the short paragraph that followed has haunted me until Sunday’s Gospel. “Give it all away. Seriously. When you give everything away, then you’re left with only what you need. Then you’re as wealthy as you need to be and you are freed from any attachments to possessions.” When I finished typing that into the test system, I was surprised at what I wrote! Where did this come from? Certainly not me!

In my initial ponderings about what I wrote, I knew it to be the message that Scripture conveys. According to Bishop Robert Barron, that is exactly what the first Beatitude is all about: Blessed are the poor in spirit. Poor in this sense is meant to indicate an attachment to things, albeit money, material goods, or a combination of both. As I looked around my office, I realized all the stuff I have. For example, I have two beautifully hard-bound books that I used in my college classes — several decades ago — each encompassing the works of Shakespeare and Chaucer. Do I need these books? No. Do I ever look at these books? I can’t recall the last time I did so. Will I remove these books from the premises? Not unless I have to. They are nice books! I don’t see the purpose of getting rid of perfectly nice books, unless I need to downsize what I have. If something happened to them, would I replace them? Nope. So I don’t have an attachment to them, yet I insist on keeping them, which makes me think there is some sort of connection I have with them. Yet these are just two examples of the superfluous minutiae that I have.

“If you are not trustworthy with what belongs to another, who will give you what is yours?” (Lk 16:12) This line caught my attention during Sunday’s Gospel reading and sent me pondering down a whole different train of thought. What is really ours? What do we have that we have not received through the grace and blessing of God? While we may have worked to receive a paycheck to pay for our home, our furnishings, our clothes, it is the generosity of God that has allowed us to be able to work in whatever job we have. Indeed, it’s not just the items that surround us, but our very being itself that is a gift of God. Each breath and heartbeat is willed by God. Are we trustworthy stewards of all that God has given us?

As children of God, we are called to reflect what the Father does for us. He is lavish with His blessings and we are called to mirror that same generosity towards others. For some it may be spending time with them — a precious gift that we cannot make any more of — to listen and be present in that moment. Others may require a helping hand to complete a task. And still others may require food, clothing, or money to buy the essentials of life. As God blesses us in many ways with many things, there is no singular way that we give of ourselves to others. Rather, it’s looking for ways that we can assist. Some are called to serve food at a shelter, some are called to prepare the food, and some are called to purchase the ingredients. Each gives differently according to their capability and calling.

Wealth, in a pure secular sense, is fleeting. We all know we cannot take it with us when we pass from this life. However, the more we imitate God in the here and now, the better we will be able to recognize Him in heaven, because in serving others, we see in each person the image of God. True wealth, then, is not something we can measure because it is the Infinite God of Love.  

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Basilicas, cathedrals, and shrines, oh my!

My parish offered a pilgrimage for the Jubilee of Hope to the Basilica of Saint Andrew in Roanoke, Virginia. It was like a mini retreat and we had a wonderful trip there. We received a tour of the basilica and the guide asked if we knew the difference between a basilica and a cathedral and if a church could be both. While I was positive that a church could be both, it got me wondering about the first question.

Growing up in the Archdiocese of Philadelphia, I recall people using one of the following: the basilica, the cathedral, or the cathedral basilica. However, as I was thinking back to my time in Philly, I couldn’t recall the actual name of the church! There was a part of me that wanted to call it St. Peter’s, but I squashed that thought, as that would be the Vatican. I was partially correct. The name is the Cathedral Basilica of Sts. Peter and Paul. But what makes a church either one of these designations, or both?

The easy one to start out with is the cathedral. It gets its name from the Latin cathedra meaning throne or chair. This designation is for the church that serves as the parish for the bishop, archbishop, or cardinal of a diocese or archdiocese. There is a special chair reserved for the use by the bishop on the altar of the cathedral. One may consider it the chief or main church of that diocese. If the diocese is large enough, there may be more than one cathedral serving that diocese, although each would be in a different location. 

It was interesting to learn what makes a church a basilica. First, it is a church of historical and architectural value and the designation can only be granted by the Pope. A basilica is tied to the Holy Father and is his home base to celebrate Mass when he travels to that region. The seal of the basilica will contain the crossed keys to indicate the connection with the Pope. Other signs of a basilica are the ombrellino, an umbrella-like structure made of red and gold fabric that originally was used to shelter the Pope, and the tintinnabulum or little bell, that is used to lead the procession when the Pope is celebrating Mass. The expectation of a basilica is to celebrate liturgical feasts with enhanced solemnity. They also serve as a place of pilgrimage and can bestow an indulgence when the specific criteria is met. 

Basilica St. Andrews, Roanoke, VA

When I was chatting with folks outside of my parish about my trip to the basilica, most initially thought of the one in Washington DC. However, that church is not just a basilica, but also a shrine. The Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception is a place to foster devotion, in this case, to the Blessed Virgin Mary under her title of the Immaculate Conception, since the United States is under her patronage via that title. A shrine is a sacred place and may contain a special relic, be on the site of a historical event, or the site of a spiritual event, like an apparition. When I hear the word shrine, especially as one who was raised in the Philadelphia area, I think of National Shrine of St. John Neumann and National Shrine of Our Lady of Czestochowa. These are places for pilgrims to travel and learn more about the faith, and participate in the Mass or other events hosted by the shrine. 

There are 70 national shrines in the United States, and over 90 basilicas. These sacred locations are a wonderful way to explore the spiritual riches in your own backyard, or to venture out somewhere new and seek God from a different perspective. 

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Built by God

Are you building a hut, a house, or a mansion for God in your soul? Scripture has often used the analogy of a building to correspond to our relationship with God; and the same holds true even today.

When we imagine what a hut would look like, we think of something made out of necessity. It’s to protect oneself from the elements and not meant for longevity. While it may last months, maybe even years, without constant upkeep and reinforcements, it’s not likely to see a full generation of living. Most huts are built directly on the ground, so there is little-to-no foundation for support. When we only seek God in times of trouble, not recognizing Him at any other time in our lives, then we are building a hut-type relationship with God. It’s meant to be assistance to us as we weather the storms in our lives, but not meant to be everlasting. 

When building a house, no matter how modest, one of the first things that is done is the foundation. This can be something deep, containing an underground basement, or can just be a slab of concrete — something flat, and supportive. As Catholics, we have a wonderful foundation in the sacraments. Baptism is the most basic of all the sacraments and welcomes us into the family of God. It is also the initial pouring out of grace and the Holy Spirit upon our souls. How we respond, not only to this initial introduction of grace but through the whole of our lives, determines what kind of house we build for God in our souls. Some try to balance belief in God with the demands of the world. While faith is still the base layer for that relationship, the house will be modest, due to secular competition. When we embrace all that Catholicism has to offer, fully receiving the sacraments with the intention of building a stronger relationship with God, we make more room in our souls for God to effect change in us. 

Making time for morning and evening prayer, whether it’s following the divine office, a variation of it, or a simple Our Father, Hail Mary, and Glory Be, we are inviting God into our lives and all our experiences. We are asking for God’s guidance to help us choose to do His will and to keep us from choosing the enticement of temptations. Yet if we seek to challenge ourselves to go beyond routine by making a retreat or adding additional pious practices into our lives, we continue to expand our relationship and make a larger home in our souls. When we seek to strengthen our relationship with God, we are asking Him to help us dig out all that keeps us from Him. It’s like seeking an experienced excavator who will look for the weaknesses in our foundation and repair them. This is not a simple bandage fix, but one that takes time, effort, and a whole lot of mess before the foundation is corrected and strengthened to add to the house. 

When we picture a mansion, we think of a huge house with more bedrooms and bathrooms than anyone could ever need in a single home. We would expect that, like a massive tree which has an even larger root system, a large mansion would have an extra deep and extra reinforced foundation.  When we think mansion, we think ultra wealthy and ultra luxury. Welcome to the homes of the saints! While they may have been poor on earth, they built a relationship with God that would outshine any grand architecture on this side of eternity. Not only did they embrace the sacraments and all the teachings and traditions of the Catholic Church, but they made God their focus during their life on earth. Regardless of their vocation, they pursued bringing the light of Christ to the time and place they were at that moment. They allowed God’s will to be accomplished through them, being His hands, His feet, His eyes, and His smile. The fruits of their labors are reflected as the many rooms in the mansions of their souls. 

Perhaps it’s not so much of what type of dwelling are we building for God in our souls, but what kind of building are we allowing God to create within us. When we cooperate with God’s will, we are allowing God to help us change to become the best version of ourselves. A hut, a house, and a mansion are all dwelling places. Let us begin by welcoming God into our humble abode and asking Him to dwell within us.  

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Unused doesn’t help

The Catholic Church has seven sacraments that bring the grace of God into our lives and helps us to have a relationship to Him. However, if we don’t utilize the sacraments, they cannot help us in our earthly journey towards heaven.

Out of the seven sacraments, four are typically only received once. Each Catholic can only be baptized and confirmed once. These are part of the initiation into the Catholic family and impart the grace and spirit of God. The other two, marriage and holy orders, are typically received only once, but each may have circumstances that allow for the sacrament to be received again (i.e. after a spouse passes, or as a priest becomes a bishop). That leaves three sacraments that are to be used frequently to help us on our way to eternal life.

Does your refrigerator, freezer and pantry contain food for you to eat? Do you expect the food to give you nutrition and sustain your body while it’s still on its respective shelves? Silly questions, aren’t they? Yet when we neglect to receive the Eucharist, that’s exactly what we are doing with our spiritual life. While some foods can be eaten raw or without any preparation, the Holy Sacrament is made to be received within the context of Mass, as both the Liturgy of the Word and of the Eucharist can prepare us for a worthy reception of the sacrament. Each time we receive the Precious Body of Jesus, we are to 1) welcome Him, 2) be open to the grace He brings, and 3) utilize the intimate moment to convey the deepest sense of our souls to Him. The Mass allows us to orient ourselves to Jesus by hearing the Word of God and giving us the opportunity to reflect on how His Word is speaking in our lives today. In the Liturgy of the Eucharist, we are present with Jesus as the priest offers the bread and wine. It is as if we, too, attended the Last Supper. We are called to remember that moment in time and give our assent to believing we are receiving the Body, Blood, Soul, and Divinity of Jesus under each of the species of the Holy Sacrament. Without regular reception of the Eucharist, we can spiritually starve our soul and our relationship with God.

Just like having food in the house does not give us the nutrition we need, having cleaning supplies does not mean our house is clean. Maybe you have a Roomba and don’t have to worry about vacuuming, but that device won’t dust and it won’t clean your countertops or your sinks. The spiritual version of cleaning supplies is confession. While frequent reception of Holy Communion will refresh your soul from venial sin, going to confession several times a year is great for spiritual deep cleaning. We are all sinners and are all works in progress. As we reflect on our thoughts, words, and actions and how they can be damaging to our relationship with God as well as those we interact with, the sacrament of Reconciliation gives us the opportunity to go deeper and ask God for help in specific areas that we find troublesome. It’s not enough to just tell the priest what you have done (or didn’t do), but you need to 1) be sorrowful for sins, 2) do the penance prescribed by the priest, and 3) intend never to commit the sins again. While the last one is hard, it’s the whole purpose of the sacrament. By being aware of what we are doing, we can catch ourselves before we get into a situation that is conducive to the sin we are trying to prevent. If gossiping is the sin we need to work on, then being mindful of what you say is important. It may take several trips to confession in order to get to the point where we can avoid the sin. We also need to be mindful that we can always slide back into that habit easily and that it may be something we spend our lifetime being sorry for, doing penance for, and trying our best to avoid situations where we slip back into that vice.

Lastly, just like food and cleaning supplies, medicine cannot help us with a fever or a headache if we don’t take it. The sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick is not just for people who are about to die; it’s for anyone with an illness that is seeking the grace of God to help them through it. This could be for a surgery, it could be for an illness that needs treatment — like cancer, or it can be for a long-term disease like depression. There is no limit on the amount of times you can receive the sacrament. As Jesus healed many throughout the Gospels, showing that He is the Savior of the world, this sacrament calls for the healing of the individual, both in spirit and body. While a bodily healing may not reflect the healing we would want, a soul open to Jesus can receive peace and strength for the suffering they are enduring. Catholics are invited to join all their sufferings with the Passion of Christ, especially those for which we seek the sacrament of Anointing. The sacrament may not cure a person from the bodily effects of the illness, but it does give them the spiritual focus to support them through their suffering.

The sacraments are gifts God has given us to use. When we participate in God’s will and seek a closer relationship with Him through the sacraments, we are given a taste of heaven on earth. Let us use these precious gifts with joy and gratitude to God who loves us so much that He bestowed them upon us.

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Don’t tell God

Prayer is conversing with God. How many times, however, do we make a request of God, not a petition, but more of a command when we pray? Telling God what He must do is not prayer but arrogance. It illustrates the grasp for control that humans wrestle with since the serpent told Eve and Adam that they would be like gods if they only ate the forbidden fruit.

In last Sunday’s Gospel, Jesus encourages us to pray to God and to ask, seek, and knock for what we need. He tells us to be persistent, not to give up, but to continually petition God. (Lk 11:1-13) God the Father is the giver of all good gifts and we will be blessed in everything God gives to us. Yet in next Sunday’s Gospel, it appears to be almost the opposite. While the main theme is about greed, the passage starts with, “Someone in the crowd said to him, “Teacher, tell my brother to share the inheritance with me.” (Lk 12:13) That reminds me of when Martha instructed Jesus to tell her sister Mary to help her. Telling, requesting, or instructing God as to how something should be done will not achieve the results you want. 

While prayer is a conversation with God and we should feel comfortable to describe how we are feeling and what we need, it’s also an opportunity for us to be open to what God wants from us. Asking, seeking, and knocking are all attitudes of being humble and understanding that we can’t do everything ourselves. We must also listen, accept, and be open to answers and the real need for God’s assistance. If we are telling God what to do, then we are in a moment of anger and frustration, and we are venting, not having a conversation. While those are valid feelings to bring to God, He doesn’t want us to stay there, but wants to help us work through the feelings. Using the example of the brother wanting his sibling to share the inheritance, perhaps the initial prayer is for helping his sibling to see his need. Maybe the reason for the sibling’s stubbornness is due to an argument between the brothers and the prayer should be about making peace between them. And maybe it’s the requestor himself who is the one holding the grudge and needs God’s help to forgive his sibling.

When we petition God for help, we’re asking Him to mold us into the best version of ourselves. We are called to be holy and become saints who will live in God’s presence for all eternity. Sainthood is not just for those called to religious life, but rather every individual God creates, especially those who are baptized members of the Church. But God will not make us a saint because we tell Him to do so. Rather, we become saints because we seek God first, ask for God’s assistance, and continually knock on the doors of opportunity God provides to us. We pray “thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” Not our will to be in heaven, but God’s will that we reflect His image and likeness so that we can enter into heaven after the completion of our time on earth.

God wants to give us so many blessings. But if we do not have the maturity to recognize, appreciate, and share the gifts He gives us because we are focused on ourselves, then giving us more will not be in our best interest. Telling God what He needs to do only underscores that we are unprepared to receive all the blessings He wants to give us. We need to be persistent in seeking His help to become more like Him and to become as holy and blessed as He desires us to be.  

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Spirit and love

The other week in my Magnificat prayer book, the intercessions for the evening prayer surprised me. As I prayed each one, I was struck by how deep and personal each one was. These would be great to pray on a regular basis. 

When we are frustrated with the actions of others, and hurt by betrayal, is the first petition. Thankfully betrayal is not common in my life, however feelings of frustration are not just an everyday occurrence, but multiple times a day. They come from all areas of my life, including of myself! As humans in a fallen world, we do need to expect the bumps in the road of life, however, these can either be used for growth in reliance on God, or to chip away at that relationship. It can be very easy to make excuses to allow ourselves to be frustrated with another. Feeling disappointed is an acceptable feeling, but acting on that disappointment is opening ourselves up to sin. When I’m in the midst of frustrating circumstances, I notice in myself that I start feeling cranky and lose my temper at the silliest of things, like the paper towel not tearing off the roll correctly. It’s then I realize that I’m really reacting to something else and I need to lean on God to help me through the emotions so that I don’t respond poorly to someone who crosses my path.

The second petition is, When we are tempted to anger and hatred. Our world has in it entirely too much hate and anger. People are quick to raise their ire and respond with, “how dare you” about something that is spoken or not spoken, an action that is expected or unexpected, or a belief that is either accepted or denied. Each person seems to have their own definitions of what is right and wrong, and if you don’t comply, then you face a barrage of vitriol. Anger and hatred feed upon the person who gives these feelings safe harbor. There are times in life when we will feel the emotion of anger. If we feed it, ponder it, and build the case for why it is acceptable to be angry, then we will be on our way to meet hatred. When we acknowledge that we are angry, while it may sound odd to give God something so totally opposite of who He is and what He deserves from us, God is really the best person who can help us to release the anger we have and find peace, even in unresolved situations. 

When we feel neglected or rejected is the last petition. This one may pertain to some personalities more than others. When I read this one, I did have to pause before saying the response. There were a number of memories that flashed through my head. Experiences of this nature have a way of eating away at our confidence and make us second-guess not only ourselves but also the intentions of others. Removing these hurtful feelings definitely requires the precision and skill of our Creator. He understands us and how we think, feel, and react. It’s not enough just to forgive, but to open ourselves up to love, even when it means loving those who we feel neglect or reject us. 

The response was: Send us your spirit of love. It seems rather benign and not at all earth-shattering, but when coupled with each intercession, it becomes a powerful petition. Seeking God’s spirit to address each of these issues is like asking for the fire of God to purify your circumstances. It’s saying to God you are opening your heart, mind, and will to His assistance in addressing these issues. At the same time, it seeks the love of God. It’s that same love that prompted Jesus to perform many miracles, but to also pronounce judgement on those same towns who only took physical healing but remained untouched in returning to a relationship with God.  

These intercessions coupled with the response make a powerful prayer that’s especially needed in our era. Prayer is not placing an order with God, but communicating with Him. We need to be open to His response. He may ask us to do something, or He may have someone aid us. Perhaps He would have the circumstances turn totally upside down from where they are now. But if we could channel the Spirit of God’s love when we encounter these challenges, we could find a little bit of heaven here on our earthly journey. 

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End of times

From social media feeds, to headline news, to YouTube suggestions, the end of times seems imminent. Will Artificial Intelligence (AI) take over the world? Will climate change lead to multiple cataclysmic catastrophes that will wipe out civilization? Will the population explode to the point that the earth cannot sustain the number  of people or will it shrink to the point that society cannot sustain itself?

Anxiety, especially over events we cannot control, causes suffering and can be very hard to overcome, even for a person of faith. Yes, I believe in God and I know that He will bring the most good out of any circumstance, but what about me? How am I going to be able to handle these overwhelming prospects? This is where Satan can get a foothold. He wants us to lash out and react, not with confidence in God’s divine providence, but in fear, anger, and hatred. Previous generations experienced wars, famines, floods, and all sorts of dire challenges. For some it was the end of their existence on earth. For others, it was the end of life as they knew it, but surviving the traumatic events was the beginning of a different way to live. But the world still turned. 

For those who succumbed to the catastrophic events, we can only hope and pray that God had mercy on their souls. They were given time on earth to know God, but they also had the choice to ignore Him or to think they could spend time with Him once they achieved their desires on earth. Some may not have had much of a chance at all on earth. While their death seems horrible and senseless, perhaps if they had survived, they would have faced an even worse challenge. For those who did survive, no matter their beliefs, God allowed them to make it through the challenges. We may not know the specifics of their stories, but we know that not only is survival possible, but that we can weather the change and continue to flourish. 

We have seen many changes throughout history, and even in the past sixty-some years. Man has walked on the moon and made massive strides in technology. Not only have computers been invented, but what were once the size of a room are now small enough to fit in the palm of your hand and can do exponentially more calculations than their predecessors. Yet with all these changes and purported advances, our world has only gotten more unpredictable. We know we need to wash our hands to lower our risk of illness, but that it won’t save us from cancer. We are able to put a name to various illnesses and diseases, and while many can be cured or at least managed, we still don’t have complete control over our bodies. It would be great if I was able to control if and how badly I would develop arthritis in my knees, but I’m not. The only thing I do have control over is exercising to prevent, or at least delay, the arthritis from getting worse. 

With all the negative, and often sensationalized, content and news being directed toward us, it can be hard to have hope. This year especially, the Church is celebrating the Jubilee year for Hope. It is all at once: 1) a reminder to be hopeful, 2) to be thankful for hope-filled faith, and 3) to reflect on how we can live out the hope we have. We are bombarded with messages that are anything but hopeful. And if that wasn’t enough, life itself often gives us sufficient challenges to test just how much hope we do have. Our faith is hope-centric, as St. Paul says, “Now hope that sees for itself is not hope. For who hopes for what one sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait with endurance.” (Rom 8:24-25) We’ve never seen heaven, and yet we hope to spend eternity there. We hope in the mercy of God because He loved us so much that He willingly suffered, died, and rose again to demonstrate that there is more to life than just what we see. When we begin to be plagued by doubts about being hopeful, we must turn to Him and the scriptures to fill us with grace and hope in His Will. 

We don’t know what will come to pass or when the end of times will be. However, we can prepare for heaven, which is what life on earth is all about, by seeking a relationship with God and with all those He loves, which is every person because each is made in His image and likeness. By following Jesus’ example and spending time getting to know Him, we can prepare ourselves for whatever may come our way. We can be hopeful that we will be ready for heaven, despite whatever challenges we are called to face. And if we are destined to endure hardships, we can spend even more time in hope and preparation for eternity. 

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The struggle to change

Change happens every minute of every day. Sometimes it can be impactful, sometimes it can leave a mark, and sometimes we don’t even realize it. Change can happen to us in our circumstances, or it can be something we initiate. Any change, however, requires us to make choices of how we will adapt. With intentions of changing ourselves, we may have grand aspirations of what we can accomplish, but do we remember that we need to put in the hard work to achieve those expectations? Or is our initial reaction to the struggle a signal to change our minds or give up? Maybe we blame others when our expectations fall short. While the results of our choices may have been reasonable, the road to them may be very long and with lots of detours, so how can we give up when we’ve only gotten started?

The old adage, “you made your bed, now you need to lie in it” is all about accepting consequences for our actions. But when the results don’t measure up to what we expected, it is an uncomfortable experience. Life is not a simple mathematical calculation where you plug in two numbers and achieve a sum that can only be only one answer. When we respond to change, our choices can initiate the need for more change. It’s not the result we expect, but we need to be willing to be open to the opportunities when they present themselves. 

While I know I’ve made changes in the past that I’ve stuck with, there are probably more that fell to the wayside. Sometimes change is more than just altering a routine, it’s about adjusting our perspective and our response. A familiar routine is a comfort in times of change, but so is the attitude we use to approach our life. When we always think of things one way, it can be hard to get out of that mindset to think of other possibilities, even when we want to change ourselves! We can get caught in a stagnant loop in our mindset. Yet it is in these moments when, instead of digging deeper into ourselves, we need to seek God’s assistance. Perhaps we do need to make other changes that we may not recognize. Maybe the struggle is the opportunity to truly learn about ourselves. Our expectations are really our will. In praying to God, we need to trust in His guidance and accept the unexpected. We may eventually realize that what He desires for us is so much better than our initial expectations. 

Daily I pray, “Oh sweet Jesus, I surrender myself to you, take care of everything.” Yet as much as I trust in Christ to see me through, times of struggle are just that: a struggle. I don’t expect life to be all sunshine and roses, as we need some rain to make the sun seem that much brighter and to water the plants to make them bloom. In Paul’s second letter to the Corinthians he says, “Therefore, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and constraints, for the sake of Christ; for when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Cor 12:10)

God gives us a lifetime to grow closer to Him. In our fallen world, that means that we need to change and become more like Him. The goal for our life is to build a solid relationship with God so that we can spend eternity with Him. We hope all the struggles, choices, and changes in this life will produce the fruit of heaven-ready souls. 

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God’s peace

While our world today is in great need of peace, it’s more than just our politics and nations that need it. Each of us requires peace as well. God’s peace is available to us all. The question becomes, will we accept it? 

Sometimes at the end of Mass during the final blessing, there is a reference to God’s peace surpassing understanding. It’s one of those phrases that I know it when I hear it, but I can’t recall it exactly. In Googling the prayer, one of the first items in the search results was Paul’s letter to the Philippians from the US Conference of Catholic Bishops website, specifically the books of the Bible section. And there it was, “Then the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” (Phil 4:7) When I pause to take it in, peace seems like a shield. How can peace protect us? Perhaps the key is what it is protecting or guarding: our hearts and our minds. Shouldn’t peace protect our bodies as well? Maybe not. Maybe what gets us in trouble in the first place is our hearts that desire worldly things and our minds that scheme up ways to get what our hearts desire. If our hearts and minds are firmly centered and guarded in Jesus Christ, we may still stumble but we will remain much closer to God than if we chose to follow our own desires. 

When carefully reading that passage, I realized that it begins with the word, Then. That word indicates cause and effect. So, if we want God’s peace, then we need to see what comes immediately previous to that passage. “Rejoice in the Lord always. I shall say it again: rejoice! Your kindness should be known to all. The Lord is near. Have no anxiety at all, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God.” (Phil 4:4-6) God’s peace will come to those who fully rely on God and show it in their actions. While this passage does not say we shouldn’t be sorrowful in times of sadness, what it does indicate is that we should also find a way to rejoice in the midst of our sorrow. It does not mean we put on a smiling face because we “have” to do so. It’s about allowing God to fill us when we don’t have enough for a genuine smile. 

Paul’s reminder is simple and straightforward, but how often are we aware that God is always with us, no matter the circumstances?  Regardless of when we are in a moment of consolation or desolation, God does not leave us, even if we don’t feel His presence. If we lean on our faith to believe God is always with us, then we can rejoice in all moments. We also can dwell in His peace because it is always available to us. And when we believe and trust that God accompanies us through our life’s journey, we can then achieve the ability to live without anxiety. When we know that God is with us, we are in regular conversation with Him, which is what prayer is. We converse about our day, our needs, the needs of others, as well as appreciating all He does for us. How often do we, instead of turning to God, fret about the daily circumstances we encounter? We are anxious about the cost of living rising, and about the potential worldly events. We forget we are not destined for this world, but life everlasting with God after this world.

God’s peace is not conditional. He doesn’t withhold it because of our faults. Rather God’s peace is the fruit — the result — of when we put our total trust in Him. God’s peace is meant not for us to hold onto it, but to share it with others. In reflecting the love of God to others, we can also reflect His peace as well. Like the well-known hymn states, “Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me.”